Why does my Narcissistic mother lie to me? While I can't be sure, I have a pretty good idea. So let's start with some observations. Sooner or later, everyone tells a lie. In fact, over a lifetime, we all tell many lies. The Narcissist, however, is a liar. It isn't...
The heartbreak and gift of letting your daughter go Dear Teenaged Daughter, (written 10 years ago) You have that far away look in your eyes now. Home isn’t the center of your universe. I knew it would be this way. I just didn’t know how...
You know the feeling. You are just itching to give advice, but you can sense it isn’t the best thing to do. ( how to listen to your daughter instead of giving advice and why you should) You've noticed: -Your advice always seems to fall on deaf ears. -You can talk...
For daughters of Narcissistic, (Borderline or personality disordered) mothers, romantic relationships are set up for trouble, real trouble. * Having never learned what a secure love feels like, they understandably mistake their anxiety for love. It isn't your fault;...
Postpartum Depression- When you become a mother. For, you, the daughter of the Narcissistic or Difficult mother, new motherhood can be terrifying. Just when everyone expects you to be blissing out, you can feel like a failure and nobody wants to talk about why. You...
Are daughters you just complaining about mom? Most adult daughters of difficult mothers I see in psychotherapy are not just complaining about mom. If anything they want to feel love from their mothers. When Mom is limited or impaired and can't provide the love and...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc0-4Wt-M1E Are you raising a daughter even though you have had a difficult childhood? When you haven't had good enough mothering yourself, doing the right thing by your own children is an even harder task than usual. I think you are...
It's a terrible choice to have to make. Feeling like you have to choose between Mom and your partner can be gut-wrenching. Your childhood self is programmed to obey and respond to mom. You feel guilty if you don't choose mom. On the other hand, you know you need to...
" I don't want to mess up my daughter the way my mom messed me up." Yep, EVERY mother on my psychotherapy couch ( especially the "good" daughter) who has a difficult mother and is now raising a daughter has the worry she will make the same mistakes her mother...