“ Set Guilt-Free Boundaries With Mom Sounds great, doesn't it? And I promise we will get there by the end of this post. As a psychotherapist for over 35 years, I know guilt is the #1 reason daughters have trouble setting boundaries with their mothers. And even...
As you might expect, some mothers don't love what I am saying, and they have some things to say to me :). Their objections might be exactly what you hear from your difficult mother. Their firsthand objections provide excellent prompts for me to explain how I see what...
.The Good Daughter Syndrome- When good for Mom is bad for you. If you struggle in your relationship with your mother, you might wonder... “Is there something wrong with Mom, or is it me?” If you’re the Good Daughter of a Difficult Mother, that’s a question you’ve...
https://youtube.com/shorts/WCYvhHfJ6PU Does Mom tell you E.V.E.R.T.H.I.N.G, take you into her confidence even when you really wish she wouldn't? Does she call upon you to be her unpaid therapist? Does Mom expect to be your primary emotional relationship? If you and...
READ/WATCH/LISTEN Does your guilt-tripping mother say- "I guess I'm just a HORRIBLE mother..." "After ALL I've done for you ..." "I won't EVER give you my advice again..." "I was JUST trying to help..." "I guess you didn't THINK about how I might feel..." "I don't...
( Please note- The following focuses explicitly on the experience of daughters parented by mothers with untreated BPD. Not every symptom will affect every daughter, and certainly not to the same degree. My observations are based on 35 years of clinical practice and...
( How to break free from an overbearing and controlling mother) A manipulative, intrusive, overbearing, micromanaging.... controlling Mother can make your life miserable. In the extreme, it can be soul-crushing and do violence to your sense of agency, leaving...
Narcissistic Mother Empath Daughter = The Good Daughter Syndrome. ( If you would rather listen- go to the end of the post for the audio version of this post) If you are empathic and your mother is narcissistic, borderline, or just plain difficult, you might be...
It's a terrible choice to have to make. Feeling like you have to choose between Mom and your partner can be gut-wrenching. Your childhood self is programmed to obey and respond to mom. You feel guilty if you don't choose mom. On the other hand, you know you need to...