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Do You Have a Narcissistic, Borderline, or Difficult Mother?

You Could be Trapped in the Role of the "Good Daughter"

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The Good Daughter Syndrome

"I can never make Mom happy. No matter what I do, it's never good enough. I'm never good enough. The drama, the arguments that never end.. are exhausting.

There's constant pressure to be good for Mom. To make Mom look good, to make sure Mom is okay. 

Whether she’s narcissistic/borderline/addicted or just demanding and critical, trying to be good for Mom...

is what I call the Good Daughter Syndrome.

And it can last a lifetime.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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First time here?

I’m glad you stopped by.

Because I understand what you’re going through.

If you’re like a lot of the women I work with in my psychotherapy practice, you’ve been struggling with these feelings for a while…maybe for as long as you can remember. You think of yourself as a compassionate person, but you find yourself avoiding Mom's calls and dreading visits home. And, any time you do talk to her or see her, you remember why.

You end up feeling like you’re not good enough.

You feel resentful one minute and guilty the next. Whether you talk to her every day or haven’t seen her in years, it’s like Mom is always there, weighing in on your life, that little voice in the back of your head reminding you of all your faults and failures. But you don’t know why dealing with your mother is so difficult, or what to do about it. You just know it feels crappy.

I want you to know that I understand. And, even better, I can help.

I’m Katherine Fabrizio, and over more than 30 years of treating women just like you, I’ve learned to understand the “Good Daughter” trap so many of us fall into. I understand the impact a difficult or impaired mother can have on her daughter’s life. I know the damage it can do.

I used everything I’ve learned about dealing with a difficult mother to create a roadmap to help you find your way past the pain, to a happier, healthier, saner life.

You can't break free from the psychological traps that keep you stuck if you can't see them. These unconscious traps form patterns that control your core beliefs about yourself holding you back and down. Understanding this dynamic is the single most important thing you can do to find your confidence, peace, and sanity.  Once you know, you will realize it is right under your nose and always has been.

So stay right here. I've been where you are and found a way out-a way home to myself.

I know these traps and the way to break free from them.

Katherine

Everything you need to know about dealing with a Difficult Mother

Articles by

Katherine Fabrizio M.A., Psychotherapist, Author, Speaker

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Narcissistic Mother Traits – Symptoms of a Bigger Problem

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Why Most Strategies for Dealing With a Narcissistic Mother Don’t Work and What Will

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10 Things Narcissistic Mothers Say And What She REALLY Means

February 24, 2021 | 11 Comments

“Is My Mom A Narcissist?” What You Need To Know

February 17, 2021 | 6 Comments

Should I Go No Contact With My Mother? Here’s How To Decide

January 12, 2021 | 2 Comments

Narcissistic, Borderline and Histrionic Personality Disorders All Have This In Common

November 5, 2020 | 8 Comments

Why Does My Narcissistic Mother Lie To Me?

August 26, 2019 | 20 Comments

Dear Teenaged Daughter -The Story of How I Let You Go And What I Learned 

August 18, 2019 | 2 Comments

How To Listen To Your Daughter Instead Of Giving Advice

February 14, 2019 | 2 Comments

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers and Romantic Relationships: When Anxiety Feels Like Love

February 11, 2019 | 0 Comments

Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers Are At Risk For Postpartum Depression- Here’s Why

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Why Daughters of Difficult Mothers Aren’t Just Complaining About Mom

October 31, 2018 | 0 Comments

Daughters of Difficult Mothers Who Are Raising Daughters- You Are Heroic: Here’s Why

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Why is mom so difficult?

Whether your mother is just demanding and critical or suffers from narcissistic, borderline or histrionic personality disorder, you may also be suffering – with things like anxiety, depression and relationship issues.

This free guide explains:

  1. How your mother’s problem presents itself
  2. Why is mom so difficult?
  3. Where her issues come from
  4. How her issues affect you

Understanding is the first step towards freedom, so download your free guide here.

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"Katherine Fabrizio... sees. She sees with the eyes of her soul and reflects to the eyes of her client. She does not boast any knowing, instead, she lets her client reveal him/herself in a safe and all-loving space.

...She sees so that others might know. Know the next step to take, know that their feelings are warranted, and know how to heal their wounds.

Few things have the power to postiviely change an entire life. Katherine Fabrizio changed mine."

- B.B.

Hi, I’m Katherine Fabrizio M.A.

and I understand you - I have been treating Adult Daughters of Narcissistic/Difficult Mothers, Trapped in the Role of the “Good Daughter” in psychotherapy for over 30 years.

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The Good Daughter's Guide to Freedom

5 ways to break free and take back your life

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Katherine Fabrizio M.A., L.P.C.

is a Licensed Psychotherapist with 30 years experience and a mother to two grown daughters. She believes healing the mother wound is the single most important thing a woman can do to empower herself and her daughter.

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Reviews

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Brisa Silvestre
Brisa Silvestre
19:07 15 Feb 21
I absolutely treasure every single moment I spend in Katherine’s presence. From the very first time we’ve met, I felt very safe and cared for around her calm and nurturing energy. Katherine is truly empathetic and such a generous and thoughtful person. From my perspective, Katherine is one of those really special beings that you encounter once in a lifetime- if you are lucky enough. One of the things that makes being around Katherine so special is- no matter what the subject I was sharing with her, I felt that she was 100% present with me and actually practicing active listening (a skill that only a few possesses). Katherine’s judgment-free and kind approach, guided by her decades of counseling experience and her intuitive intelligence, gave me ease and strength to make choices that would elevate my relationships with my family, my partner, and beyond, while allowing me to process any left over emotional blockages that were obstructing me from healing and deep connection. I’m so grateful to have Katherine in my life, and I greatly appreciate her for inspiring me to continue to grow.
Stephanie Emerson
Stephanie Emerson
21:53 06 Feb 21
I've had the pleasure of knowing Katherine professionally and personally for two years, two very challenging years of my life. And I truly believe that our conversations empowered me to thrive. She has the ability to support you while listening and then by summarizing your words in the most authentic way. We began our relationship in person and were then forced to communicate by phone and through Zoom, her brilliance never dimmed, and I always look forward to connecting with her!
Lisa Canfield
Lisa Canfield
18:51 13 May 20
If you are struggling with "mother issues," or any other issues, i cannot recommend Katherine highly enough. She helped me figure out things about myself that have bothered me for years, that i never understood, that i thought were just part of being "screwed up." I wish I'd found her 10 years sooner, so i could have understood where my pain comes from and be a better mom to my (now adult) kids. if you are thinking about working with Katherine, seriously, don't wait like i did. she understands this because she's lived it herself and she really can help.
Mary Lee
Mary Lee
17:49 18 Jun 15
I've had the privilege of knowing Katherine Fabrizio for over 15 years, and benefiting from her clinical knowledge, compassion, and insight. Katherine creates a safe, comfortable environment for psychotherapy; fostering trust and a willingness to explore issues & feelings. While available to work with all adults, Katherine especially shines in her work with women. Mary M Lee, LCSW
Holly Mills
Holly Mills
18:55 21 May 15
Katherine is a woman unlike any I have ever met. She is so understanding, gracious, and affirming in her interactions with others. In my experience working with Katherine, I've come to value our time together as constructive and motivational. She has a knack for cutting through the chaff getting to the heart of an issue in a way that feels so unobtrusive. Her ability to speak to deeper seeded truths that affect our daily lives in our behavior, relationships, and life experience is beyond insightful - it's almost spooky! It's evident that her time counseling women over the past 20+ years really has given her a clear understanding of the issues facing my generation of daughters. I would recommend her to anyone in need of compassionate counsel during hard times. She is a joy to know!
A Non
A Non
14:31 09 Apr 15
Katherine is everything you want in a therapist: kind, warm, extremely intelligent, understanding, and receptive. She makes connections that you might never have realized. She never pushes her own agenda, and allows you to find your way, and focus on the things you feel are important. More than just listening, Katherine provides insightful feedback. Highly recommend!
Kathleen O'Grady
Kathleen O'Grady
15:36 28 Mar 15
Katherine Fabrizio exudes comfort. To be around her is to be creatively inspired by your own uniqueness, and to learn to accept, love, and even laugh at, your perceived limitations.
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