Does Mom Expect To Be Your Primary Emotional Relationship?

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Does Mom tell you E.V.E.R.T.H.I.N.G, take you into her confidence even when you really wish she wouldn’t? Does she call upon you to be her unpaid therapist? 

Does Mom expect to be your primary emotional relationship? 

If you and Mom are close and choose to be each other’s best friend and share everything, it’s all good if that’s your choice.

It’s when Mom expects that her emotional needs come first, before your partner or your children … When she expects to be privy to your personal information.

In other words- when there is a demanding quality to her expectations. If you are left feeling like you don’t have a choice in the matter- without upsetting her. When she takes your closeness with another as a threat- that’s a whole nother kettle of fish.


Today, we’re diving into a topic that many of you have requested: the expectations our mothers place on us to be their primary emotional support.

It’s a complex and often challenging aspect of modern mother/daughter relationships.

Finding the Balance:

It’s natural for daughters and mothers to share a deep bond and friendship. Many mothers and daughters choose to be each other’s best friends, sharing everything from life’s joys to its struggles. It can be beautiful when both parties willingly and happily engage in this type of relationship. However, problems arise when the mother expects her emotional needs always to come first., when she expects you to be her primary emotional relationship.

Signs of Unhealthy Expectations:

One clear sign that Mom expects to be your primary emotional relationship is when she demands access to every personal detail of your life. She may feel entitled to know everything that goes on with you, often using guilt or emotional manipulation to ensure compliance. This lack of respect for boundaries can be emotionally exhausting and detrimental to your well-being.

The Obligation Factor:

One of the most challenging aspects of dealing with a difficult mother who expects to be your primary emotional support is the sense of obligation you feel. You’ve been conditioned to believe Mom’s happiness is directly tied to your own, and her upset becomes your responsibility. This guilt-driven dynamic can profoundly impact your ability to foster healthy relationships and prioritize your needs.

Setting Healthy Boundaries :

As a daughter of a difficult mother, you must learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. You deserve to have your own emotional space and independent lives without feeling burdened or responsible for your mother’s emotional well-being. Communicating your needs assertively but compassionately is essential.

Remember, setting boundaries is not a sign of disrespect or abandonment; it’s a necessary step toward your healing and growth.

Seeking Support:

Navigating the complex dynamics of these relationships can be challenging and emotionally draining. It’s important to seek support from others who understand and validate your experiences. Connecting with like-minded individuals through support groups, therapy, or even online communities can give you the empathy and encouragement you need to face these challenges head-on.

Embracing Self-Care:

Finally, prioritizing self-care is crucial in managing the expectations placed on you by your difficult mother. By nurturing your own emotional well-being, you can build resilience and find the strength to assert your independence. Engaging in activities that bring you joy, practicing mindfulness, and seeking professional help are all essential components of your self-care routine.


Remember, dear daughters; you are not alone on this journey. It is challenging to navigate the expectations placed on you by your difficult mothers, but through self-awareness, healthy boundaries, and seeking support, you can find peace and fulfillment. Your well-being matters, and you can reclaim your emotional space and prioritize yourself.

Stay strong and nurture your beautiful relationship with yourself, separate from the demands of your difficult mother. You deserve it.

If you need additional help with escaping this mother/daughter dynamic- I can help.


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