Setting boundaries with your mother sounds great, doesn’t it? And I promise we will get there by the end of this post. As a psychotherapist for over 40 years, and author of The Good Daughter Syndrome®, I know guilt is the number one reason daughters have trouble...
As you might expect, some mothers don't love what I am saying, and they have some things to say to me :). Their objections might be exactly what you hear from your difficult mother. Their firsthand objections provide excellent prompts for me to explain...
He tells you not to upset her. You keep wondering why he won’t protect you. “Don’t upset your mother.” “You know how your mother is.” Or, worst of all: “Go apologize to your mother and make things right with her.” You came to Dad hoping he would see what happened,...
You reach a point where you can’t keep letting it go. It’s not just one thing. It’s that it starts to add up. The comments, the unwanted advice, the way things get turned around… the way you end up feeling after almost every interaction. So you decide to say...
Have you ever found that your narcissistic mother can't ...for the life of her... back down from an argument? No matter what the subject, she can't concede the point. She seems hell-bent on making her case rather than listening to you. Try as you might but you just...
https://youtube.com/shorts/Nusc7G60Ckk Dealing with a narcissistic mother can be challenging and emotionally draining. One aspect of their behavior that might puzzle many is their inability to handle being ignored. In this blog post, we will explore the psychology...
Useful guilt helps you make things right. Unhelpful guilt keeps you stuck feeling responsible for Mom’s feelings. In brief Feeling guilty after you say no or set a limit does not, by itself, prove you have done something wrong. Guilt can help you notice when you have...
Dealing with a difficult mother can leave a daughter wondering if she is worthy of love. From infancy and beyond, every daughter learns who she is, how to love and be loved, first from her relationship with her mother. This relationship is the foundation...
12 Things Estranged Daughters Wish Their Mothers Understood Before It’s Too Late In brief Estrangement is rarely a daughter’s first choice. Many daughters spend years explaining, swallowing anger to keep the peace, and hoping the relationship will improve. These...