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Why Your Narcissistic Mother Lies To You and Why It’s a Red Flag?
Updated September 5, 2023 Why does my Narcissistic mother lie to me? While I can't be sure, I have a pretty good idea. So let's start with some observations. Sooner or later, everyone tells a lie. In fact, over a lifetime, we all tell many lies. The Narcissist,...
Dear Daughter – How I Let You Go And What I Learned
The heartbreak and gift of letting your daughter go Dear Teenaged Daughter, (written 10 years ago) You have that far away look in your eyes now. Home isn’t the center of your universe. I knew it would be this way. I just didn’t know how...
Daughters of Narcissistic/Difficult Mothers and Romantic Relationships: When Anxiety Feels Like Love
Updated October 5, 2024 For daughters of Narcissistic, (Borderline or personality disordered) mothers, romantic relationships are set up for trouble, real trouble. * Having never learned what a secure love feels like, they understandably mistake their anxiety for...
Feeling Like You Have to Choose Between Your Mom And Your Partner?
It's a terrible choice to have to make. Feeling like you have to choose between Mom and your partner can be gut-wrenching. Your childhood self is programmed to obey and respond to mom. You feel guilty if you don't choose mom. On the other hand, you know you need to...
Is Mom a Covert Narcissist ? A Fool-Proof Way To Tell
Is Mom a helicopter, overly involved mother...or does is she a covert Narcissist? Mom knows best! Mom to the rescue! Mom is always right! Right? Humm.. the culture stands back and cheers, loudly! But where does good intention end and overreach begin? A closer look at...
This Is How Mom Became Narcissistic or Borderline- What She Didn’t Get in Childhood
Mom just can't take criticism. Regardless of how carefully you put your complaint, mom can't admit any wrongdoing. No matter what you say, she always has a comeback. Does she think she is untouchable or perfect? That would be an easy answer, but you know, that's not ...
Why You Can’t “MAKE” Mom Happy
You can't make Mom happy, but you certainly can waste a lifetime trying. When you look back, you may realize how much of your life you have tried to make mom feel better about herself. Before you realized it was an impossible, thankless job, did you spend much of your...
Dear Mom- Here’s Why I Am Avoiding Your Calls & What I Wish I Could Tell You
Dear Mom, You call me and I don't pick up. Do you wonder why I am avoiding your calls? Is it that I don't love you? Or, am I a thoughtless, ungrateful, heartless child? ( I seriously doubt it- I'm the "good" daughter after all) Or, is there something else going on?...
#MeToo & Mom -When Mom Doesn’t Believe, Validate or Protect Her Daughter When She Has Been Sexually Assaulted/Abused
When #MeToo & Mom comes home. What happens when a mother does not protect her daughter from sexual abuse? What about when she doesn't believe her daughter when she tells her she has been sexually abused? Her daughter feels a deep level of betrayal she may not even...