Playing the role of the Good Daughter- always feeling pressured to be better than you are, takes it’s toll.
Let’s get real for a moment sisters. Women have been burned, owned and controlled, for a very long time. We know, as women, this oppression figures prominently in our collective history. We might not fully realize how the mistreatment of women has taken a psychological toll on our mothers. This unfair oppression has generated a […]
If you struggle or have struggled with your relationship with your narcissistic mother, my guess is you are determined to do things differently. While your own struggle has been painful, this may open the psychological door for you to make the very changes that can set both you and your daughter free.
Let me ask you: How do you want your daughter to feel about herself? If I know you, you would gnaw off your right arm if that would give your daughter the self-esteem you wished you had gotten from your Narcissistic mother. You want more than anything for your daughter to feel confident and sure of […]
As a psychotherapist to women for over 30 years, I have seen this pattern over and over again. Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers, trapped in the role of the “Good Daughter” can’t bring themselves to stand up to their mothers. Fast forward countless psychotherapy sessions and let me cut to the psychological chase. I will let […]
Postpartum Depression- When you become the mother. For, you, the daughter of the Narcissistic mother, new motherhood can be terrifying. Just when everyone expects you to be blissing out, you can feel like a failure. Do you look at your beautiful baby only to have tears stream down your face? It wasn’t your fault. Here’s […]
When you truly move past wishing mom were different ….. You open to the possibilities of a life transformed. You and your daughter can write your own chapter. Parenting her differently can transform your pain into strength.
To Heal You Must Get Out Of Your Head And Into Your Body An overview- It isn’t enough to merely understand what went wrong with your mother/daughter relationship on an intellectual level. Awareness is essential and at the same time, not enough. To enhance healing you must first be in touch with the emotional pain, […]
Why is it so hard to say no to mom? You are so afraid of hurting mom’s feelings. The critical comments, the unwanted advice, the controlling moves, all add up. You feel like you want to scream, yet you choke back your words. You just can’t find your voice. A well-meaning friend or therapist says- ” […]
COULD THIS BE YOU? “You know John is great ….except, of course, when he isn’t. There is a lot about him I do like, but he doesn’t always come through with his promises. I think he has a lot on his mind these days. I really wish he would talk to someone. ( Yep, there is […]
“Hold on sweetie; I’ve got to get this. It’s mom calling!” Good lord, the invasion of Iraq didn’t take this much planning. Your oldest is having a play date, SCORE! The baby down for a nap SCORE! Your libido is somehow retrieved from the south pole……SCORE!SCORE!SCORE!
Transcript: Poem From the Adult Daughter to the Narcissistic Mother Not Your Fault, Not Mine, Just Is I stand before you but you can’t see me. My life. My heart. Myself. You can’t see or feel it. My actions, my motives, are never ever good enough. Good enough for you to see me. Truly see […]
When It Comes Time To Stand Up To The Mother Guilt, Guilt Trip A daughter came to me for help, describing a truly awful mother/daughter dynamic. Yep, that’s right, ripe for Jerry Springer stuff. Mom alternately lifted her daughter up “You know you are the only one I can depend on.” only to dash her […]
Do You Have A Narcissistic Mother? 3 Signs She Has Passed Her Insecurities Down To You…. Will your Daughter Be Next ?
Do you may feel inadequate, struggle with self-doubt and not know why? Could it be that your mother relates to you in a toxic way and you are so used to it – you can’t see it? It may seem normal to you that you second guess your every decision and apologize constantly. You aren’t […]