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Good Girl Conditioning + Difficult Mother = The Good Daughter Syndrome®
Good Girl Conditioning in Action When I was nine, I could sense my mom’s bad mood before she even said a word. Her footsteps were heavier, her sighs louder. The air in the house felt sharp, like walking barefoot on broken glass. I didn’t know what had gone wrong that...
7 Ways a Covert Narcissistic Mother Affects Her Daughter
At the end of this article, you will be able to tell if you suffer from the long lasting effects/symptoms of being a daughter of a covert narcissistic mother... or one high in covert narcissistic traits. Before we get to the symptoms of daughters of covert...
10 Secrets For Setting Guilt-Free Boundaries With Mom
“ (updated October 2024) Set Guilt-Free Boundaries With Mom Sounds great, doesn't it? And I promise we will get there by the end of this post. As a psychotherapist for over 35 years, I know guilt is the #1 reason daughters have trouble setting boundaries with their...
My Response to a Mother Who Wrote I Was “Demonizing Mothers”
As you might expect, some mothers don't love what I am saying, and they have some things to say to me :). Their objections might be exactly what you hear from your difficult mother. Their firsthand objections provide excellent prompts for me to explain...
“Don’t Upset Your Mother”Narcissistic Mother/Passive-Enabling Father
( updated October 2024) ( The Passive-enabling father says ) -"Don't upset your mother." " You know how your mother is." Or the worst... " Go apologize to your mother and make things right with her." You wonder- is it possible Dad is in the dark when it comes to mom?...
What is The Good Daughter Syndrome® & Do I Have It?
.The Good Daughter Syndrome®- When good for Mom is bad for you. If you struggle in your relationship with your mother, you might wonder... “Is there something wrong with Mom, or is it me?” If you’re the Good Daughter of a Difficult Mother, that’s a question you’ve...
What Really Happens When You Confront A Narc/Borderline/Difficult Mother?
https://youtu.be/Ke5_tC71K9k Summary- When You Confront A Narc/Borderline/Difficult Mother? If you confront a mother high in Narcissistic Traits- there is a reason it will not go well. The psychological defenses or coping mechanisms she uses to keep herself from...
Is It Worth It? 5 Hidden Costs of STAYING in Contact with a Narcissist
Should you go or should you stay? That's the question that keeps many daughters of narcissistic mothers up at night. Tossing and turning at 3:00 a.m., you tally all the reasons for staying in contact with your difficult mother. There's always another upcoming event-...
Unmasking The Covert Narcissistic Mother- How She Appropriates and Undermines Her Daughter’s Successes
https://youtu.be/TUQxyfKXR8g Unmasking the Covert Narcissistic Mother ( updated October 5 2024) Mirror, mirror on the wall, who's the fairest of them all? This timeless line from Snow White holds a deeper meaning, mirroring the complex dynamics between a covert...