Can your mother empathize with you? Can she get past her defensiveness and put herself in your place? What if the answer is no? What if she doesn't get you and never will. How do you let go of the hope that she will and move on with your life? What if you need to get...
How the people pleasing false self develops. Was saying "No" to mom simply not an option? "No mom, I don't want that." "No mom, I'd rather not do that." "No mom, I can't help you with that." If it wasn't acceptable to be your real self with mom you needed to develop...
You look great, but wonder if that dress comes in a larger size? I'm glad you got the job, but are you sure you want to put the kids in daycare... all day? The apartment is nice but can you really afford something so fancy with your job? Does Mom offer up a...
Women's empowerment and the mother/daughter connection Let's get real for a moment sisters. Women have been burned, owned and controlled, for a very long time. And, lied to. We know, as women, this oppression figures prominently in our collective history. How does...
COULD THIS BE YOU? "You know John is great ...except, of course, when he isn't. There is a lot about him I do like, but he doesn't always come through with his promises. I think he has a lot on his mind these days. I really wish he would talk to someone. ( Yep, there...
I never forget that empathetic daughters of narcissistic/difficult mothers hurt. They walk away from the (emotional) table, hungry again and again. Underneath their anger and resentment is a deep longing for a mother who can truly see them and accept them for who they...