Do you struggle to stand up for yourself? Can you stand up to your mom, mother-in-law, step-mother or another woman in a position of authority? Have you ever let someone get away with being rude or unkind to you and… you say nothing?
Does your mother, mother-in-law or stepmother criticize or put you down habitually? Perhaps she is always putting you down, giving you back-handed compliments or simply putting you on the spot with her implied criticism.
If your mother habitually criticizes you, will you stand up for yourself? Will you say something or swallow this one …yet again? If you remain silent do you kick yourself afterward? If you let them “get away with it”, why should anything change?
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So many daughters in the role of “good daughter” remain silent when a hostile critical comment comes their way. The barb, the swipe, is leveled at them and they freeze. The “good daughter” is programmed not rock the boat and to smooth things over. Yet, she knows deep down she goes against herself by remaining silent. If this sounds like you, let me break down what is happening. The problem with not speaking up for yourself is that resentment builds & erodes your self-confidence. You remain conflicted and have a hard time trusting anyone. When you let resentment build over time you worry you will blow up if you speak your mind. How do you address hostility that comes your way without losing your cool or playing doormat? Let’s come into the moment – when you need to confront hurtful behavior. You might respond like this-
“You know, that was really hurtful. I’m not sure you meant to hurt me, but that’s how it came across. Could you tell me why you want to say that?”
If you’re met with silence, you might’ve just taken the other person off guard, or conversely you might have called them out on their hostility. When you are habitually bullied by another woman, she is counting on you to remain passive. If the comment wasn’t intended as hurtful, then she has a chance to regroup and say something along the lines of-
“Oh, I’m so sorry. What you felt isn’t what I intended. Let’s talk about it”
By bringing up what was hurtful and hearing a response, you can tell quite a lot. Whether you get a thoughtful response, silence or a hostile defense,
Here is what you can know for sure-
No matter what the outcome, you’ve stood up for yourself in a way that’s direct, kind and compassionate. When you stand up for yourself the people in your life will sit up and take notice. You aren’t merely being good. This is good. Good for you. Stand up for yourself and let your voice be heard.
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