Do You Have a Narcissistic/Borderline or Difficult Mother?
You could be Trapped in the Role of the "Good Daughter"
Do You Have a Narcissistic or Difficult Mother?
You Could be Trapped in the Role of the "Good Daughter"
The Good Daughter Syndrome
When the attuned, sensitive, and compassionate daughter of a narcissistic/borderline/addicted or difficult mother feels pressure to be good for mom, make mom look good or make sure mom is okay, she is trapped in the Good Daughter Syndrome.
"I can never make mom happy. No matter what I do, it's never good enough. I'm never good enough."
First time here?
I'm so glad you stopped by. If you're like me, a Good Daughter in recovery, you've found yourself wondering, "What is wrong with my mother?!"
Maybe you're feeling the impact of a strained mother/daughter relationship. Maybe your romantic relationship is struggling because mom just won't let go. Or maybe you've found yourself just not feeling "good" enough. Whatever it is, you're dealing with a difficult mother.
As a licensed psychotherapist with over 30 years experience treating women, I know all about those. In fact, I've organized everything I've learned about dealing with a difficult mother. You know there's a problem, and we can find the solution together here.
Katherine Fabrizio M.A., Psychotherapist, Author, Speaker
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From my therapy couch, I see woman after woman convince herself to “settle” for less than she should. (Especially vulnerable is the “good” daughter of the difficult mother.) Here are eight ways women lie to themselves and the critical questions they should be asking themselves instead. 1.“You know John is great. Except, of course, when […]
You know something is amiss but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Mom isn’t loud and overtly self-centered but she does always make it about her. In fact, if mom doesn’t get her way there is hell to pay. This you know is true. And if you are in the role of the […]
Why is mom so difficult?
Many daughters of Narcissistic, Borderline or Histrionic personality disordered mothers struggle with anxiety, depression and relationship issues.
This free guide tells you how each disorder 1) presents itself 2) what caused it 3) and how it effects you. Understanding is the first step towards freedom.
"Katherine Fabrizio... sees. She sees with the eyes of her soul and reflects to the eyes of her client. She does not boast any knowing, instead, she lets her client reveal him/herself in a safe and all-loving space.
...She sees so that others might know. Know the next step to take, know that their feelings are warranted, and know how to heal their wounds.
Few things have the power to postiviely change an entire life. Katherine Fabrizio changed mine."
Hi, I’m Katherine Fabrizio M.A.
and I understand you - I have been treating Adult Daughters of Narcissistic/Difficult Mothers, Trapped in the Role of the “Good Daughter” in psychotherapy for over 30 years.