For daughters of Narcissistic, (Borderline or personality disordered) mothers, romantic relationships are set up for trouble, real trouble. * Having never learned what a secure love feels like, they understandably mistake their anxiety for love. It isn't your fault;...
Postpartum Depression- When you become a mother. For, you, the daughter of the Narcissistic or Difficult mother, new motherhood can be terrifying. Just when everyone expects you to be blissing out, you can feel like a failure and nobody wants to talk about why. You...
Are daughters you just complaining about mom? Most adult daughters of difficult mothers I see in psychotherapy are not just complaining about mom. If anything they want to feel love from their mothers. When Mom is limited or impaired and can't provide the love and...
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc0-4Wt-M1E Are you raising a daughter even though you have had a difficult childhood? When you haven't had good enough mothering yourself, doing the right thing by your own children is an even harder task than usual. I think you are...
It's a terrible choice to have to make. Feeling like you have to choose between Mom and your partner can be gut-wrenching. Your childhood self is programmed to obey and respond to mom. You feel guilty if you don't choose mom. On the other hand, you know you need to...
" I don't want to mess up my daughter the way my mom messed me up." Yep, EVERY mother on my psychotherapy couch ( especially the "good" daughter) who has a difficult mother and is now raising a daughter has the worry she will make the same mistakes her mother...
Is Mom a helicopter, overly involved mother...or does is she a covert Narcissist? Mom knows best! Mom to the rescue! Mom is always right! Right? Humm.. the culture stands back and cheers, loudly! But where does good intention end and overreach begin? A closer look at...
You can't make Mom happy, but you certainly can waste a lifetime trying. When you look back, you may realize how much of your life you have tried to make mom feel better about herself. Before you realized it was an impossible, thankless job, did you spend much of your...
Dear Mom, You call me and I don't pick up. Do you wonder why I am avoiding your calls? Is it that I don't love you? Or, am I a thoughtless, ungrateful, heartless child? ( I seriously doubt it- I'm the "good" daughter after all) Or, is there something else going on?...